I wouldn’t consider myself a very impulsive person. I don’t think I’m against spontaneity, I just don’t think that that is my natural state. I don’t often indulge in last minute or spur of the moment things. But sometimes I do.

I was talking with this man online for awhile. Over messaging he was flirty, interesting. But also very willing and eager to get to know me as person. He was asking questions, he wanted to have actual back and forth conversations!

I think we were on the brink of meeting up earlier than we did but something came up that he couldn’t avoid. So that put us off for another few weeks. When things started to settle down from his life thing, we agreed to meet up again but childcare meant a cancellation and there were times where availability didn’t align. I almost just called it all off thinking if this is how it’s starting…

But on an impulse, one evening he said he was free at around 9pm if I wanted to meet him at a trendy cafe that sells some kind of hipster beer. I wouldn’t normally go out so late (I have such grandma-like tendencies!) but I was curious enough about him that I said yes. I just got in my car and drove.

I love it when I’m able to do that. Not worry about how to get to a place I’ve never been, I’m not worrying about where I’ll park. But as soon as I got there I did very embarrassingly have to reverse park into a space with my date watching. Talk about full-on romance from the get go!

The rest of the date went well enough. Conversation was interesting and varied and just really, really easy. I hadn’t realised until I got up to leave (they were kicking us out) how incredibly late it was. It felt nice to be doing something a bit different and I could imagine that if I’d said it was too late from the start that I’d have stayed at home, been up just as late and spent it faffing about online doing very little of interest.

It’s a good reminder for me. Don’t get stuck in your ways.

In the end, there was some sort of communication mishap on his side and after our date we went from messaging a lot through each day into no messaging at all. But that isn’t the point! I’m glad I said ‘yes’ and had some late night in person chats.