I was messaging with this man the other day and I had a gossipy question to ask him about someone we both know. And he wrote back to say something like he had a lot to say about this topic, would a phone call be easier?

And I don’t know, I don’t think this is a usual or typical thing to suggest these days. Is this just me? But a little thrill went through me when he suggested it and I said ‘yes’

And I think what followed was an hour long conversation in which I almost entirely smiled through it. Have I ever told you how much I enjoy hearing someone else’s voice? Particularly someone that I am romantically or sexually interested in. This man wasn’t someone I’d had sex with but the ‘yet’ was implied.

And when I first accepted the call and heard his voice I thought ‘holy shit, his voice sounds even hotter than I remembered’ – and this is something that my brain adds to voices where I have some sort of emotional connection to them. I feel like everything about them becomes more appealing.

But voices just generally are sexy. And intimate. I loved hearing the different ways he’d say words, the pauses he’d put between words, the way things sped up when he was excited in telling the story, the inflection on different words. It made me smile and laugh and just generally feel closer to him.

There’s something about voices for me that this conversation felt like a warm hug.