I recently changed what I was looking for on dating apps.

I thought what I wanted was to connect better with people and as that’s been a massive disaster with men, I thought why not try with women?

I go back and forth about my attraction to women. I’ve said before that if I had to choose between men or women, I’d always choose women. But then another bisexual woman asked me if that was just because I had less experience with women and if I’d be making that decision based on scarcity?

It was an interesting thought. I’d like to date a woman. I’d like to find out what it’s like, what types of things I’d encounter, how it would be different.

And I thought I was onto something … I matched with several women and thought ‘oh, here we go’ …

Only for me to send them first messages that I was hoping were interesting and enough to be engaging and I received silence in return.

I’m not interesting enough to appeal to other women on dating apps!

I do wonder over and over again how to meet people (men or women!) organically. I wonder if it would be easier to build up a friendship over time that would potentially lead to more.

I’m currently looking into low-pressure ways to meet more people. Wish me luck!