I first came across this woman a year ago. She may have sent me an introductory message about a thing I was planning on attending but didn’t. I don’t quite remember.

We met last summer. We were both attending a get together and she’d mentioned possibly travelling in together on the train. I said that because she was a little bit further out than me that I’d probably meet here there instead but I’d love to catch up at the thing?

I saw her there but she arrived late. She’d mostly stuck around a group of people that I didn’t know that well. But we literally just said ‘hello’ and exchanged the briefest things about the train journey in. Over messaging she was for forward and super flirty. In person, she was a lot less intense. But I took that change in how she was as maybe she wasn’t that into me? Because she didn’t make another attempt to make conversation that day.

Afterwards, several months later we ended up messaging each other about something else. She said something like she’d love to meet up for coffee sometime, have a proper catch up. I told her that I had a busy few days coming up but how about that weekend? She never got back to me.

We ended up on the same group chat shortly after that and she said all over again that we lived fairly local to each other, maybe we should do that coffee after all? I said how about Sunday? Or Wednesday? but she hadn’t really gotten back to me. So I figured if she really wanted to, she would. Her lack of response was telling me everything. Especially in the group chat she’d mentioned meeting other women. Regularly. Frequently.

I don’t mind. I would never mind that people aren’t into me. All I’m looking for is some consistency. Some follow-through? Is that too much to ask?

Anyway, this week she’s messaged me again.

Can I take you out for a drink sometime? 

I think you are so lovely and I would really like to get to know you more 

If the feeling is not mutual, I’m a big girl and I won’t be offended  

I just can’t even with her. I hope I don’t blow as hot and cold with others as this woman does to me. I haven’t messaged her back, I don’t think I have the energy.