There are some people who are just incredibly lovely. And I was lucky enough to have sex with one of those people the other day.

I’d met him recently for a walking date and he is lovely but he doesn’t live particularly close to me. So when he said he’d be in my area over the weekend, did I want to meet up I said ‘yes’ straight away. We hadn’t even kissed when we met up for our walk so it was a bit of a leap that this meet up was going to be in his hotel room, but I’m here for this type of questionable behaviour.

I’d told him beforehand that I struggle with that transition from talking normally fully clothed into the naked sexy times so he was pre-warned for when I arrived and started babbling away. It was like I couldn’t stop. My mouth just kept opening and I was telling funny stories about my parcel of lingerie being delivered to the wrong address and maybe stories about my dog? I don’t remember.

But because he’s lovely he went with it. I don’t know how he knew but what he ended up doing was perfect. We were lying on the bed next to each other and instead of anything more forward he would nod and smile at my stories and at the same time start pulling me closer or gently touching me. I felt a little bit like a spooked horse that he needed to settle. But I’m glad he did it and all that touching helps calm me down anyway.

It’s a bit weird having sex with someone new, isn’t it?

I was familiar with his faces when he talks to me, his face when he’s smiling or laughing but I was not familiar with the really intense eye contact he gave me while we were at the actual event or his o face.

I had a fucking great time and a lot of that is down to who he is as a person. I could tell from all the eye contact that he was really interested in connecting with me on that level. He’d link his fingers or hands with mine like he wanted that physical connection all the time too. And afterwards, it was all this lovely cuddling and touching. And I couldn’t get enough of it. It’s one of my favourite things lying naked next to someone and just gently touching each other.

I hope to do that again and sometime soon. He asked if I wanted to see my favourite musical with him sometime soon. And it makes me smile to think about him.