I matched with a man on a dating app and we immediately started talking about Studio Ghibli films, about his recent holiday to Japan.

Conversation carried on to films we’d seen recently, what books we were partway through and were trying to finish by the end of the year.

Conversation was natural, it was flowing, it was interesting. I remember thinking that the physical appearance of him was maybe not the type of person I’d usually go for (or who would go for me) but I thought ‘huh’ maybe I’ve always just been short-sighted when it came to muscular, rugby types?

He said something mildly flirty/sexy and we had the obligatory conversation about being reciprosexual (that old killer of possibility) and he said that he’d be interesting in meeting soon for a coffee date. I said I would be excited for that too. We made tentative plans for a day in a week’s time.

I don’t have notifications set up for this dating app and work was crazy busy and then I had my course where I couldn’t use my phone for 9 hours straight. When I realised I hadn’t looked at this app for 24 hours I thought ‘oh no, I hope he doesn’t think I’m not interested’ and I logged in to find that he’d already unmatched with me.