I had an unexpected offer the other day. Someone that I had met for a social last year messaged me out of the blue. Last year I had a great time meeting him but following our drinks date, communication sort of petered off and I didn’t chase him to continue.

I mostly just figured one or both of us just wasn’t that into the idea of the other and I didn’t explore that too much at the time. Just accepted it and moved on.

Fast forward to the other day and he messaged me. I was curious enough to know his reason why and messaged him back. That’s when he gave me this unexpected offer. Putting himself forward for a FWB situation. Okay… I said. But why now? After all this time?

And he explained that when we’d met before he’d had concerns about two things. The first being my on/off person. The second being written about on this blog.

Right… I said. But both those things haven’t changed? My on/off person is still in my life and I’m still navigating what that relationship looks like. And I will continue to write on this blog. So what’s changed? And he did sort of answer. Life is short, we should be enjoying our lives, he doesn’t think those things matter as much.

And I don’t know how I feel about it.

I don’t want people to be uncomfortable about my relationship with my on/off person. I can understand why people might be, especially if what they’re ultimately after is a monogamous relationship. But this person is in an open relationship. So monogamy isn’t an option. (But also, never in the past two years has my relationship with my on/off person been a barrier to me meeting, dating, or fucking other people?? So I was a bit confused.)

And I also don’t want people to feel uncomfortable about what I write on this blog. Again, I understand why people might be. But I try to be as transparent as possible towards those who might feature on it. I don’t think that everyone that I write about reads the blog, but most have access and the ability to read it if they wanted to. I hope everyone knows how anonymous I try to keep things and that I do care about most people that I write about. I want to write about my thoughts, feelings and experiences but that doesn’t mean that I’d be unfair or disrespectful to those people in my life? and perhaps I’m feeling a bit upset by this person thinking featuring on my blog as a bad thing?

I don’t know. Since making this offer, he went silent again. I’m not going to push it. I think I’ll just chalk it up to to something a little bit unexpected and a little bit confusing.