Does this make me a terrible person? I’m really keen to hear other people’s perspectives.

Recently (and I’m being very, very loose with the word ‘recently’ here!) two separate people (who I have previously had sex with) had each said that two particular people were either a previous sexual partner or were a potential sexual partner.

And when I heard both people say who those people were it immediately gave me the ick and I no longer held a sexual attraction to either of them.

Is that terrible?

I feel like it is terrible. Because I’m judging both by my own experiences and perspective. Partly because it isn’t necessarily because either of those people is physically unattractive or that their personality is lacking (though, in the spirit of full honesty, I do feel one is really physically unattractive and the other is really lacking in personality!). It’s more to do with I think both individuals have displayed such low standards that they’ve overlooked these physical or personality attributes.

And I’m mostly writing this post because I feel so cringe about it. I’m embarrassed that I’m really very judgey about this. I can feel it in my bones that I’m being a terrible person about it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that! And I don’t know what conversations are being held in private. Why do I have such strong opinions about it?

But they are very strong opinions. And I can’t change how I feel.