So yesterday I wrote a bit about one method that I’m using to tackle my orgasm issue. But today, today is for a very different method.

I’m part of a group chat of bisexual women. I can’t say that I’ve been very active on it but during some of the more challenging times over the past few months I’ve been turning to it more and more.

And it’s been nice. I’ve liked having a group of women who listen and support me and that I occasionally meet up with at events and stuff. It’s added a layer to my life that I hadn’t realised that I was missing.

And so the other day I wrote to the group saying that I was in need of new sex toys, what do they recommend and what works best for them? I’m open to suggestions and I’d try just about anything.

The toy I use the most often is a little pink vibrator. I’ve thought often I’d like it more if it was longer and girthier because it is quite slight. I also have a rose toy and another clit sucking toy that I don’t use that often. I think my rose is almost dead, it doesn’t hold a charge anymore. I have a wand that I loathe and never use. I have a dildo that gets very little use.

It all seemed a little … uninspiring. Not very exciting. So I was keen for these recommendations.

In the end, after some frankly hilarious conversation in my group chat I went with three selections.

The first, and the one that came with the highest recommendations was a glass dildo. Particularly if I was able to pop it in the freezer for 10-20 minutes beforehand.

The second, I got a training set of butt plugs. I’ve been curious myself about anal play recently and I ended up buying a set of plugs that are shaped like tiny penises and I thought that might help with some visualisation while I was masturbating.

The third, and this one has made me laugh so much, has been a giant tentacle dildo. But I bought it in ‘ice cream’ colours so it looks really pretty. Some of the other women in the group had had similar fantasy shaped dildos with mixed results. I mostly bought it because I wanted to know how the texture of the tentacle would feel.

Will report back soon!